This past Sunday I went on my first hike in about two years with my friend Kevin. I’ve always liked hiking, but really haven’t taken the opportunity to get out there and do it. We hiked up from Indian Valley in Novato to the top of the mountain where the city cell and radio towers are located. About two-thirds the way up the trial the difficult is minimal…but THEN you go off the main trail to a secondary “no man’s land” trail, as I call it, straight UP to the top of the mountain. It’s a steep climb for most of the way. It took us two hours to hike up the mountain and about two hours to hike down. They say that the uphill climb is the hardest part, but the downhill venture was a battle in itself. Sometime the path was so steep and rocky that you could barely keep your footing. There was at least twice I had to run ahead of a potential fall. Do you know what I’m talking about? As you go trekking down a steep mountain and you begin to feel yourself slipping forward, you need to engage in a jog or run in hopes of regaining your balance. I would have to say that going down the hill was a little harder than going up. It really put a strain on my knees, but I was fine by the time the hike was over. The next day I didn’t have any aches or pains. The following day after that, my legs ached a little bit, but my knees were golden. I have to say that my knees would have really hurt if I hadn’t been eating so well. The cutting out of foods that cause inflammation in the body has been a godsend.
I have to say that Kevin’s support during the hike was extraordinary. He told me that we were there to enjoy ourselves and that we would only go as far as I felt comfortable. He was committed to me having a great experience and not hating my first time returning to hiking. His support was free ego and the pressing of his own agenda. He held no expectations and was clearly present in the moment of what mattered: walking with his friend Mark in the beautiful outdoors…nothing more.
It’s so important to have supportive people in your life when climbing towards a goal. Good support is unconditional without strings. The supporter simply desires to offer encouragement and validation. The key to good support is that the supporter has no investment in the outcome or result. So many times our support may become tainted because we desire a certain outcome to occur for a friend or loved one. We get so focused on them achieving the goal that we forget that it is their journey and not ours. I’ve had friends in the past become “disappointed” or “sad” when a certain goal I was striving for was not achieved. Their reactions varied from actual verbal criticism, to a silence and avoidance of the subject. When such situations happened, I felt crappy. I felt as though I not only let myself down, but I let others down, even though my goals had nothing to do with anyone else. A good friend supports you no matter what the final destination. They are simply a cheerleader on the road with you during your journey…and no matter where you end up, they are there to bear witness to your effort and determination.
Now, when I’m talking about support I’m not talking about offering honest and truthful feedback. That is very important in any relationship…to offer up the “things” that people don’t often have the courage to tell one another. Just realize that what you might deem as reality is only your perception of the matter and not what actual is.
On another note, I have made it past the 40 pound mark! Yahoo! It feels real good to be down 40 pounds. I’ve gone from a 40 inch waist to a 36…or have I? Actually, I have made it into 34 inch shorts! I was looking for my stack of 36 inch waist shorts the other day when I stumbled on a stack of 34s. I thought I would try them on and see if I could tell how long it might take me to actually fit back into them…and they fit! They fit perfectly. On further examination I realized that my 36s were getting really loose. It was like a free shopping day. There was even a pair of European cut shorts (cut tighter in the hips) that I was never able to get on and they fit superbly!
I have just over 13 pounds to break under the 200 pound mark. I’m anxious to get to that point but I will let my body do it’s thing and get let it get there when it wants to. I mean, I’m not going to push it by cutting needed calories or go crazy with exercise. I’m just going to keep doing what I’m doing because it’s working. As soon as a get into the 100s, I’m moving to weighing in once a week. If I had to guess, I would think that I should hit that mark sometime in mid to late August. I’ve enjoyed and needed to weigh myself in daily to learn how my body is reaction to my food and exercise regime. I think I have a good handle on it right now.
A final note on my hike with Kevin. When we got to the top of the mountain, I took a moment to take in my accomplishment. I realized that it took something to get up that mountain; to push through any pain, discomfort and exhaustion and get to the top. I didn’t make any demands of my body other than to have it push on. I didn’t have any time expectations on how long it should take me, I was just going to finish. At the top I looked at the beautifiul valley floor and gave thanks for my ability to make the trek to the top. I gave thanks to all the people who hike the trail and take the time to make sure that it is clean and safe. I took a moment to be grateful to all those people min my life that inspire me on a daily basis…and just before I headed down the mountain, I took a rock from the ground and scratched the word “inspire” on an old rusty sign post. Here’s hoping that it will motivate others when they get to the top. There are many things we can do for others in our lives; many gifts we can share. One of the greatest is to be a light for greatness towards the betterment of life. Simply put, we are meant to…we need to…inspire…